What does it mean to be a father?

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 A reflection on the role and nature of fatherhood.


I'm not the first or the last to say this: our world is suffering from a 'dad' crisis. Many children are growing up without the physical or emotional presence of a father figure in their lives. In some circumstances, this is unavoidable (such as in the case of the death of a father figure), but in a lot of others, so-called 'men' are unwilling to do their duty and support their families, either slacking off in their role or outright abandoning their wives and children.

Why is this happening? Amongst other reasons, I believe ignorance is a key factor to be considered. Ignorance of what exactly? Ignorance of what being a father really means. Now, I can't claim to know much about fatherhood. Yeah, I've been blessed with a great dad, but that doesn't mean that I understand exactly how it feels like to be a father.

In general, parenthood is about giving. During marriage, husband and wife agree to give themselves wholly to each other for life, and to give themselves to their children: raising them in the best way that they can.

Parental self-giving takes different forms. Fathers typically take the role of the provider, which entails ensuring the families material needs are taken care of (not that ladies can't do this). But there's so much more to being a dad than bringing home the bacon (or any alternative source of protein). Good dads give their all for their families: their time, their talents, even their lives if a situation calls for it. Being a dad is a daunting task, but one that is truly worthwhile. I don't think there are many things as fulfilling as raising a family (biological or other-wise); joyfully sacrificing one's self for the sake of others.

This Father's Day, we have the opportunity to give back to the fathers in our society. If you are lucky enough to have a father or father-figure around, do something for them. Make them breakfast in bed (it's not just mom's who like it). Get them a card. Call them if they're far away. Spend some time with them if you can. To all good dads, foster fathers, priests and other father figures out there...thanks. For everything.


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  1. AnonymousJune 17, 2024 at 1:58 PM

    This is great Bob. I love it. Dad's are often forgotten by many, thinking that they are strong and dont need complements. However, we are just as human as anybody else with feeling, strengths and weaknesses. Great article. Keep publishing!

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